5 Old Dating Styles That Do Not Work Today

Times change and dating tips that used to work decades ago became counterproductive and hurt your chances. If you have been out of the game for a while, make sure you don't follow these outdated "rules".

5 Old Dating Tips That Kill Your Chances Today

In general, following any rigid "rules" will make it hard to date successfully. You must be willing to adjust and change depending on how the person reacts. But be sure to avoid these blunders.

1. Waiting to call her

I still remember the times (and it wasn't that long ago) when a guy was supposed to wait three days before calling. It was an unspoken rule, and if you broke it, then you would be labelled "desperate". Now she probably would have forgotten all about you, if you waited that long.

If you met on a dating site and she gave you her number or Skype, ring straight away! How can she remember who you are in a few hours, leave alone days?

Besides, you are not the only single guy in the universe, let me tell you that. Other guys are vying for her attention and who knows, by tomorrow she might have already chatted on Skype to someone for a couple of hours and decided he might be the perfect father of her future children. Lots of girls I meet tell me then knew "instantly" he was The One. Sure, they may not tell you that within this first conversation, but it doesn't mean she hasn't already made up her mind and won't be turning away all other suitors.

(As I deal a lot with guys dating with Russian women , these girls are very set in what they are looking for in a man and their belief in Destiny, which is going to connect her to the man of her dreams; it's not unusual. But western girls also have quick crushes and attachments.)

2. Writing emails on a dating site for weeks (months)

15 years ago it was perfectly normal to email each other for a while before meeting in real life. Today you just jump on Skype, Face Time, or video chat (even free dating sites have it), so the first date, unless you are sudden neighbors, often happens on camera rather than "dinner and movie" on the weekend. Who wants to waste months writing emails or chats, without even having seen each other live? No one but scammers.

3. Picking them up from home

People are much more mobile and care about their privacy today. The lady is perfectly capable to arrive to the date, which is usually in a public place, by herself. Walking her home is also not required. (Although if you read Russian dating tips, a gentleman still has to accompany his date to her doorstep, so it depends on the woman's background, how to treat her to make her feel comfortable.)

4. Third date rule for intimacy

Actually, this might have never been a rule as such. But it's even less applicable now. Both girls and guys are open to quick hook ups, if this is what they are looking for. If they are not after something casual but want a relationship, it's rather "eight dates rule" before a woman is happy to become fully intimate.

5. Buying affection with presents

Spending sprees are no longer required if you are seriously dating. If a woman is intelligent, she is looking for a suitable partner, not some meager dollars spent on her.

The best places to jump start your dating after having no practice for years are websites and apps for singles. Dating sites have all types of people, seeking all types of connections. Initiating is also easy and you know the person is here to find someone.

All you need to do:

• Get a decent smiling picture.
• Write a positive profile.
• Contact women first.
• Be polite.
• Don't try to pretend to be someone you are not, you are good enough a catch for many ladies! It sounds rather attractive when a guy confesses he is just starting and doesn't know all the modern dating rituals and techniques. Girls are sick and tired of pick up artists.